Why Netflix’s MAID is so important for abuse survivors

There’s a lot of talk about Netflix‘s MAID at the moment. It tells the story of a women fleeing an abusive relationship and the systemic difficulties she faces. I wanted to share some thoughts about the show based on my own experience: Firstly, whilst the main protagonist is relatively young, white female anyone escaping an abusive… Continue reading Why Netflix’s MAID is so important for abuse survivors

Leaving A Narcissist Partner – A True Story Of Devastation, Discovery and Finally Freedom

The Realisation There were three things that happened that made me finally sum up the courage to be able to walk out of my own home on the day I left my narcissist partner.  It’s not that I hadn’t felt those emotions before, it is just that they were so much stronger than before. First,… Continue reading Leaving A Narcissist Partner – A True Story Of Devastation, Discovery and Finally Freedom

Narcissistic abuse, codependency and the trauma bond

One of the most difficult things to recover from after narcissistic abuse is the trauma bond.  Mainly because it doesn’t make any sense.  Your brain cannot comprehend why on earth you would want to have anything to do with them, miss them or even still love them. The truth is that narcissists are like a… Continue reading Narcissistic abuse, codependency and the trauma bond

Narcissistic Abuse Tactics

This presentation details the top ten narcissistic abuse tactics we have identified though our work.  How many do you recognise?  

Narcissistic Abuse

Thing about narcissistic abuse is it you don’t see it coming They can be absolutely lovely. Sweep you off your feet. Be everything you want them to be. The abuse is so diluted at first that you don’t notice it. Maybe your loved ones do But if they say anything. Then you push them away.… Continue reading Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic Abuse Cycle

Narcissistic Tactics Most narcissists appear to follow some kind of scriptbook as their behaviours follow a similar pattern. It starts with lovebombing When you meet they make you feel like you are the most important person in the universe.  You become addicted to this highs of being adored and cared for.  They are perfect.  Or… Continue reading Narcissistic Abuse Cycle

Narcissistic Families – Hidden In Plain Sight

Narcissistic families do a very good job of looking “normal” to the outside world.  But inside they are full of self-loathing, hurt, anger, anxiety and pain. The impact of having a narcissistic family of origin can last a lifetime and reveal itself in relationships, behaviours, thoughts and feelings. This guide will reveal the truth behind… Continue reading Narcissistic Families – Hidden In Plain Sight

Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse

Codependency and narcissistic abuse go hand in hand.  The codependent needs to feel wanted and needed.  The narcissist desperately wants and needs that level of attention and commitment to meeting their needs. It is a toxic dance though.  Where no love can survive. “Dear Codependent Partner, I will never say these words to you in… Continue reading Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse

False Memory Creation In Attachment Based Parental Alienation

False memories are a common feature of attachment based parental alienation and are a shared delusional disorder with the aligned parent.  It is one of the hardest elements especially when allegations are made by both children and parents. Professionals have a duty of care to investigate and gather evidence. But how reliable are the memories… Continue reading False Memory Creation In Attachment Based Parental Alienation

What is attachment based parental alienation?

Attachment based parental alienation describes both the impact of a narcissistic borderline parent’s disorganised attachment style and the attachment suppression behaviour in the child.  It is based on well accepted psychological constructs known to the majority of mental health professionals: Attachment (Bowlby) Family systems therapy (Minuchin) Personality disorders (Beck) Complex trauma (van der Kolk) Child… Continue reading What is attachment based parental alienation?