What happens when the narcissist can no longer control you?

When the narcissist can no longer control you they will start to control others – both their view of you and the situation. They ensure all information coming out about you, them and the relationship is controlled. And when people begin to question the validity of their claims, they rage. Narcissists have to control others.… Continue reading What happens when the narcissist can no longer control you?

Why Netflix’s MAID is so important for abuse survivors

There’s a lot of talk about Netflix‘s MAID at the moment. It tells the story of a women fleeing an abusive relationship and the systemic difficulties she faces. I wanted to share some thoughts about the show based on my own experience: Firstly, whilst the main protagonist is relatively young, white female anyone escaping an abusive… Continue reading Why Netflix’s MAID is so important for abuse survivors

Leaving A Narcissist Partner – A True Story Of Devastation, Discovery and Finally Freedom

The Realisation There were three things that happened that made me finally sum up the courage to be able to walk out of my own home on the day I left my narcissist partner.  It’s not that I hadn’t felt those emotions before, it is just that they were so much stronger than before. First,… Continue reading Leaving A Narcissist Partner – A True Story Of Devastation, Discovery and Finally Freedom

Protecting Children From Emotional Abuse And Neglect From A Narcissistic Ex

Both personal experience and professional curiosity lead us to research and develop support services for parents going through separation.  One thing that comes up time and time again is how to protect children from emotional abuse and neglect once you have separated. Let’s start by clarifying that what we’re talking about here is the abuse… Continue reading Protecting Children From Emotional Abuse And Neglect From A Narcissistic Ex

Help! I Think I Was In a Relationship With A Narcissist

Who Am I? Not something I had thought about for a while. I actually don’t know the answer to that. Sound familiar? Do you feel like you have given so much of yourself to making that other person happy that you left yourself behind? Living with a narcissist becomes a process of living for that… Continue reading Help! I Think I Was In a Relationship With A Narcissist

THE SILENT SHAME OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

Let’s talk about shame. These phrases come up a lot when I’m talking to people about past relationships that have hurt them… “I should have known…” “I saw red flags but I ignored them…” “I was too embarrassed to talk about what was happening with family or friends…” “Why did I let them treat me… Continue reading THE SILENT SHAME OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

7 Things You Need To Know About Family Court Before You Get There

Preparation of Self is the Key Preparing your mental and emotional wellbeing are both imperative to enable you to have the strength and focus you need to get through the process of family court and see it through. The court date itself is the ‘End Game’ but you need to be ready to play all… Continue reading 7 Things You Need To Know About Family Court Before You Get There

Narcissistic Behaviours: What Gaslighting Really Looks Like

Am I just being petty? Do I have an anger problem? Am I micro-managing? Everyone thinks we are a great couple… why aren’t I happy? Do any of these phrases sound familiar? These are just a few of the thoughts that can plague us when we are in a relationship with a narcissist. We experience… Continue reading Narcissistic Behaviours: What Gaslighting Really Looks Like

11 Signs of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

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