You see in my client work I see people like you who are ravaged by an abusive relationship.  They are struggling to think straight and just want the whole nightmare to be over so that they can get back to some kind of normality. 

They honestly believe that, even though their ex was horrible to them, they too will want to get this over and done with as quickly and painlessly as possible.

They weren’t prepared for the reality.

• The immediate and aggressive accusations.

• The vitriolic hatred for them

• The way they are so easily able to manipulate everyone

• The fact that they will use their own children to hurt them and win

It’s another massive blow and leaves them on their knees.  Feeling trapped.  They can’t go back but their ex won’t let them go forward either.