False Allegations

False allegations have become a common feature in Family Court.  They can be made by resident or non-resident parent and their aim is to regain control over the situation and the children.  They are a common feature of attachment based parental alienation.

Any allegation has to be investigated (rightly so) but a repeated pattern of of allegations where there is No Further Action from the police investigation or social services often indicates a parent who is:

  • Delusional
  • Controlling
  • Personality Disordered

Many “academics” try to claim that any allegation made by a woman is true and any allegations of parental alienation are made by abusive men (see my blog for a full review of this research).

The truth is false allegations are made by both men and woman due to their personality type, not their gender.  Obviously due to the nature of mother’s being seen as the main caregiver and usually given residency, allegations against men are much higher than against women.  However, I am very clear in my work that I am only interested in behaviour, not gender.

The Psychology Of False Allegations

False allegations of child abuse are immensely serious and can have immensely damaging consequences on the other parent, the parent targeted for the false allegations, and false allegations of abuse by one parent can be used to destroy the parent-child bond with the other.

Projection on Both

Parallel process – I call projection on both – this is a narcissistic personality pathology – projection and denial are known to be the prominent psychological defenses – fact – I call projection on false allegations of abuse – on both sides of the parallel process.

It is the allied narcissistic-borderline parent who is psychologically abusing the child.

There is zero evidence beyond the false allegations. 

Why do people believe them?

Parallel process – this is how.  A delusional core in the narcissistic personality imposes itself on the more vulnerable mind – the anxious and submissive mind of the child – that the other parent is a threat.

You and the child are made afraid of normal-range neighbors and family by the colluding others, the child therapists, the family therapists, the minor’s counsels, GALs, and parenting coordinators – all of whom support the shared delusional disorder as being real – when it’s not.

The more vulnerable mind of the child is swept up in the intensity and allegations emanating from the grandiose and powerful allied narcissistic parent – “It’s us against them – us against the other parent 

Sides.  Create sides and create conflict.  The pathogen lives on endless conflict.  

A delusion is a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence.  It becomes a shared delusion.

It is important to understand what the pathology is. It is a thought disorder – the thinking is not rational, it’s disordered – the type of thought disorder is called a persecutory delusion – seeing threats and conspiracies surrounding them – were none exist.

This specific type of pathology – a shared delusional disorder – creates false allegations of abuse – in the family courts.

It’s called parallel process – as above, so below – it comes from the same origins in both, the collapse of the narcissistic personality into delusional beliefs.

Those who believe the false allegations of “abuse,” are delusional. Those who intentionally create delusions in another person for secondary gain (flying monkeys), are inducing a Factitious Disorder in Another (ICD-10).

Narcissist = persecutory delusional disorder

Flying Monkeys – Inducing Factitious Disorder in Another


Dr C Childress 

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