Parental Alienation

Weapon of Choice

If you have children with a narcissist chances are you are already experiencing Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).


PAS in becoming more and more common resulting in thousands of children being denied a relationship with a loving parent.


 The assistant director of Cafcass, Sarah Parsons, said: “Parental alienation is responsible for around 80% of the most intransigent cases that come before the family courts ….” Parental alienation is estimated to be present in 11%-15% of divorces involving children, a figure that is thought to be increasing. 

What is PAS?

The full description of PAS can be found in the works of Dr Richard Gardner MD, and on his website at www.rgardner.com  and at also www.parentalalienation.com , but briefly: 


It is the systematic denigration of the non-resident parent by the resident parent with the intent of alienating children against the non-resident parent. The pattern of PAS behaviour is common to some degree or other in all custody disputes. Children who have been alienated will claim that it is their own decision to reject the non-resident parent. Once this happens, it could be several years before the non-resident parent will see their children again.
 

What it looks like in real life

In Parental Alienation Syndrome the factors include: 

  • The child hating the alienated parent
  • The child stating that it does so of its own accord
  • The alienating parent stating they have not influenced the child
  • The child’s ‘hate’ extending to all the alienated parents family and acquaintances
  • The alienating parent cutting off all forms of communication between the child and the alienated parent
  • The alienating parent exploiting every situation that will denigrate the alienated parent

The reality for you

Right now you probably feel like you are losing your children and there is nothing you can to stop it.  You've experienced smear campaigns, you've been pushed out of important events in your child's life and if you don't "play nicely" you don't see the kids at all.


You may even be thinking that your children don't love you any more and you might as well give up.


STOP


Your children do love you and they most definitely need you.  They are victims too.  They are being manipulated and are too young (or scared) to do anything about it.


But you can.

Arm yourself

Having spoken to hundreds of people who are experiencing PAS, and hearing the stories of how helpless they feel and that no-one understands or believes them, I decided that someone has to be done.  PAS wrecks the lives of children and that is NOT something I am willing to put up with. I have therefore written three documents to help you with this.  The first is "For The Sake Of The Children: A Guide To Fighting Parental Alienation" and this will provide you with practical tips on how to protect you and your children from PAS.  


The second is the "Professional Guide To PAS" which you can share with anyone related to your case or even relatives and friends so that they can see exactly what you are dealing with and help you to protect yourself and your children.


The third document is the "Co-Parenting Handbook" and is a practical guide to co-parenting with a narcissist.  This is for those of you who are still involved in your children's lives and want to make the process of co-parenting easier for you all.  I also have the Facebook group Co-Parenting With A Narcissist where you will get daily insights from me and peer support from others in the same boat as you.


Additionally if you are experiencing narcissistic abuse and Parental Alienation in Lincoln, UK and wish to discuss your case on a one:one basis please do get in touch or book an appointment at your own convenience.


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8 Steps To Building A Team Around The Child

You've probably tried fighting the narcissist on your own or with just an attorney/solicitor.  I suspect it hasn't or isn't going great.


You are fast running out of money and every time you have a question it costs you a small fortune.  Add to that that they probably don't understand what a narcissist is and therefore how best to fight them.

Don't go it alone

Whilst I am all for you representing yourself in court because who knows your case better than you right, don't try and do it all on your own.  It will destroy you one way or another.  Your friends and family will say they support you but then stop answering your calls because all you talk about is the case.  


You'll have sleepless nights going over and over every single detail with a fine tooth comb.


It will become an obsession and that is unhealthy.

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So if you are struggling with your ex and scared of losing your children, click the link below and I will be in touch to discuss your case and see how we can best move forward.


I hate parental alienation and it is my passion to STOP it.  One case at a time.  Starting with you.