FROM THE AUTHOR OF HELP! MY CHILD IS BEING USED AS A WEAPON
Having to continue a relationship with a narcissistic ex for the sake of the children isn’t easy. It can be retriggering for you and make it harder to move on.
They use every opportunity to try to regain control and make themselves feel superior.
This can include (but is not limited to):
- criticising every decision you make, often in front of the children
- repeatedly threatening you with court action if you do not do things their way
- contact interference
- using the children as spies
- blocking you from events
- gaslighting the children
As hard as you try, it can and will impact your parenting. It would be almost impossible for it not to because they are time consuming and know exactly what buttons to press to cause you the most upset.
Even a court order won’t necessarily stop them and so you need to find positive ways to parent to limit the impact on you and your child’s long term outcomes.