Is PTSD preventing you from moving forward without fear?
This is for you if….
Cursed by the wicked witch of the west?
Your relationship went from a spellbinding fairy-tale to a horror nightmare. Somewhere along the road you’ve got to figure out how to break the spell.
It’s felt like you’re watching this car crash happen in slow motion around you never really sure of how you ended up in this chaos. Of course you’ve been told it was all you but now you’re not so sure. In fact. You KNOW it wasn’t all you.
There have been some seriously crazy moments along the way! And the scars are still there.
Something has changed and you can’t quite figure out why your old self seems so out of reach. Why each time you think you’re back on track something comes along and derails the whole thing.
Totally unconnected stuff triggers rage or panic or utter sadness. In some ways that’s actually to best bit. It’s far more real than the emptiness.
I get it.
And you’re not mad.
But there’s a chance that a crappy relationship has left you with cPTSD.
No it’s not just something soldiers get.
The key word here is trauma. And it’s not all in your head either.
Your body has a very specific way of preparing you for battle. Evolution has meant that you are one of the best humans ever to be on the planet at creating a stress response that will save your life. It’s the expert response that stopped your ancestors getting eaten by a lion or kept them sharp, alert and strong during battle.
The problem with this highly efficient survival system is it also triggers in times of stress. Our bodies are a bit rubbish at knowing the difference between an ex screaming and shouting in our faces and a lions roar before it eats us. So the body reacts the same.
Now if you’d spent the last 5, 7, 13 years being chased by a lion trying not to get eaten you would understandably be a bit knackered by now. And your body would probably be showing signs of wear and tear.
PTSD is the name for this type of prolonged stress response in the body. It means your body hasn’t been able to flip back into netflix and chill mode because it still thinks a lion is behind the telly.
So our re-write the script calls are designed to flip your body back into chill mode. Think of it as waking sleeping beauty if you will. Based on the extensive research into PTSD this technique lifts the spell. It’s giving your permission to switch off, and from there you can begin to operate in thriving mode rather than spending every day being chased by a lion.
"Soon after I started facilitating Circle of Security Parenting courses, I noticed that even when we have the knowledge and a huge desire to be there for our children, our past traumas can get in the way of connecting with our children and parenting how we really want to. Trauma can be a scary or painful experience that was too big to make sense of at the time. However, small things or an absence of connection (not feeling seen or heard) can be as traumatic. When I came across Brainspotting, I knew straight away that it was a perfect way to compliment Circle of Security Parenting work. Brainspotting is a gentle and effective way to locate and process those traumas and help parents feel more present, relaxed and available when they are with their children. I trained as a Brainspotting practitioner in 2015."
Here’s what to do next;
“Before the treatment I felt angry and like I couldn’t move on. After one session I am able to talk about it without getting upset and genuinely feel calmer”
“Before the treatment I wasn’t sleeping and struggled to concentrate. Two weeks after the first session I feel so much calmer and even my friend commented on how much lighter I looked. My relationship with my son has improved as well as I am able to respond rather than react to him”